GALLERY OF COOL AND Doris Day reclusive Hollywood star, now 91

 

 

Who are the REAL kings (and queens) of cool? Years after they first made their mark Steve McQueen, Frank Sinatra, Madonna and Blondie are all still hip enough to have earned a place in the top 100 coolest Americans. +18 Singer Frank Sinatra, one of the best-selling artists of all time, in a recording studio. The 'American Cool' exhibit is currently on show at the National Portrait Gallery, in Washington, D.C. America, until 7 September Debbie Harry,  lead singer of the punk rock and new wave band Blondie, left, and right musician, singer, and songwriter Jimi Hendrix who died in 1970 +18 The 'King of Rock and Roll' Elvis Presley sings to his fans - years after his 1977 death he is still regarded as cool WHAT DEFINES 'COOL?' The curators of the exhibition had four defining factors of cool, of which people chosen had to fit at least three categories: • originality of artistic vision and especially of a signature style • cultural rebellion, or transgression in a given historical moment • iconicity, or a certain level of high-profile recognition • recognised cultural legacy (lasting more than a decade) The term 'cool' originated in the United States in the early 1940s when legendary jazz saxophonist Lester Young brought the central African American concept into the modern vernacular. Given the large number of celebrities that this term has been used to describe, an alternative list was also created for those who did not make the Top 100. This list included the likes of Samuel L Jackson, Gwen Stefani, and Tom Petty. The portraits that feature in the gallery were contemporary images shot by famous photographers such as Richard Avedon and Annie Leibovitz.   Kurt Cobain, lead singer, guitarist, and primary songwriter of the grunge band Nirvana who died in 1994. Right, Frederick Douglass, born in 1818, who escaped from slavery and became a leader of the abolitionist movement +18 Jazz singer and songwriter Bilie Holiday who died aged 44 in 1959 made the cut - just under a quarter of the 100 are women +18 American former professional skateboarder Tony Hawk, nicknamed 'The Birdman' was also deemed cool enough to make the top 100   Miles Davis, left, the single most dominating figure in jazz for the second half of the 20th century and right, McKinley Morganfield, known as Muddy Waters, who was an American blues musician and  is considered the 'father of modern Chicago blues' +18 James Dean famously portrayed troubled young man Jim Stark in 1955 Rebel Without A Cause becoming a cultural icon of teenage disillusionment. He died in a car accident in 1955 Kim Sajet, director of the National Portrait Gallery, said: 'American Cool is about America's greatest cultural export-cool-and who embodies it.' 'What you might find surprising about this show is how far back this idea reaches. 'I especially like this how this exhibition shows photographs of icons by world-renowned photographers. 'And that the show offers an opportunity for a national conversation about who defines 'cool.'   Over 25 years after his untimely death in 1980, actor Steve McQueen is still considered hip and 'cool' across the world On screen, Steve McQueen was the King of Cool. With his blond hair, blazing blue eyes and chiselled features, his face was more eloquent than any of the lines written for him in hit movies such as The Great Escape, Bullitt, Getaway and The Thomas Crown Affair. His tough, raw charisma appealed to male and female cinemagoers alike. He was seen as a romantic hero and an adventurer; uncompromisingly macho, yet with — his fans liked to believe — a gentle heart. No wonder he became the highest-paid movie star in the world until his death in 1980 at the age of 50, and no wonder his films live on. Steve McQueen was the world's highest paid movie star until his untimely death in 1980 aged just 50 Away from the public eye, though, McQueen was a bully, riven with demons, deeply insecure because of a damaged childhood, paranoid, aggressive, arrogant, petty-minded, mean with money, contemptuous of women and often violent to them, and a heavy drinker and drug user. Now a TV documentary sets out to explain the upbringing that made him such a complicated man. It is produced by his son Chad, who knew him better than anyone. If McQueen’s three marriages were fraught, so were his relationships with his fellow Hollywood movers and shakers. A loner, he was well known for his rivalry with co-stars and would deliberately set out to steal scenes from them. ‘He was always worried about things being taken away from him,’ says Chad. ‘But if you look at where he came from, you can understand why.’ The tales are legendary. Appearing in The Towering Inferno in 1974 with Paul Newman, he insisted on being given 12 more lines of dialogue, so he and Newman would be equal. He also insisted that the final shot in the film belonged to him and asked the wardrobe department to have the brim of his fireman’s helmet cut back, as he didn’t want his eyes in shadow. They said if his was changed, they would have to change everyone’s. ‘Then change them,’ he said. When Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid was being cast in the late Sixties, McQueen was offered the Sundance role. But when he found out that Newman — his keenest rival — had been cast as Cassidy, he insisted the title should be The Sundance Kid And Butch Cassidy, so his name came before Newman’s. His demand was turned down, and the role went to Robert Redford. +5 Chad McQueen getting lifted into a Ford GT40 by his father who he said he idolised despite his faults McQueen went on to demand $3 million for a brief cameo in A Bridge Too Far (1977), but received a polite refusal from director Richard Attenborough. He lost the starring role in Close Encounters Of The Third Kind because he wanted too much money, and Richard Dreyfuss stepped in. In 1979, he was offered Apocalypse Now, but would accept only if the location was moved from the Philippines to Hollywood. Martin Sheen got the role. Yet McQueen could sometimes turn his perfectionism into extra cash. Making the Thomas Crown Affair (1968), for which he was being paid $750,000, he tried on four expensive watches for one scene, but said they weren’t suitable. Instead he wore his own — and charged the producer $250 for ‘wristwatch rental’. Chad has heard them all and springs to his father’s defence. ‘People say how difficult he was, but that was because he wasn’t a sheep,’ he insists. ‘He knew what was right for him. He always did his homework and had a good idea about how he wanted to play a scene. He would fight to the death with directors to get his way, but that was how he was with everything. He lived on the edge.’ Chad idolised his father but saw how damaged he was. McQueen was the son of an alcoholic prostitute and was abandoned by both his mother and his father. Passed around family, then living on his wits on the streets, he seemed all set for a life of crime. ‘My dad had a horrible childhood,’ says Chad. ‘It made him the man he was. He fought like hell for what he believed in, but he had a very short temper; I saw that at home and in his work. He wasn’t opposed to knocking somebody out if they crossed him. ’ At 15, in trouble with the police for stealing and fighting, McQueen was sent to a reform school, the California Junior Boys Republic. ‘It was one step away from jail,’ says Chad. ‘For the first time, he felt some stability. His father had left before he was born, his mother had shunted him around, his stepfather had beaten him and he’d grown into his teens practically an orphan. When I was growing up, he never talked about his mother. ‘He always told me, “Son, Boys Republic turned my life around”. When he came out, he went into the Marines for three years, then drifted into acting.’ Chad adds: ‘If any good came out of him feeling so unwanted as a kid, it was that he always made sure me and my older sister, Terry, knew how much he loved us. He wanted to make up for what he never had.’ +5 Steve McQueen, left, bought this Ferrari 275GTB/4 while he was filming Bullitt, the car recently sold for £6million McQueen insisted his family came with him on long location shoots. ‘If he was our comfort blanket, we were his,’ Chad says. Chad and Terry may have been McQueen’s priority, but he made it clear that his marriage was to be conducted on his own terms. He began an affair within weeks of marrying his first wife, Neile Adams, in 1956 — and, as his career took off, he had dalliances with many others. ‘He made no secret of what was going on,’ Neile says in the documentary, ‘and I decided I would have to live with it. Once, he said: “Why do I have to work so hard for love at home when it’s free everywhere else?” ’ ‘We knew he loved the ladies,’ smiles Chad. ‘Women would hit on him constantly, even in front of Neile. He was cool about it.’ But there was one rule for McQueen and another for Neile. He became obsessively jealous, convinced she was having an affair, and held a gun to her head to make her confess. ‘He terrified me,’ Neile admits. When she admitted she’d had a romance with actor Maximilian Schell, McQueen beat her up. A few weeks later, she told McQueen she was pregnant and he made her fly to London for an abortion, saying he couldn’t be sure he was the father. The couple divorced in 1971. His next film was The Getaway, in which his co-star was Ali MacGraw. Her husband, Robert Evans, was the producer, but the pair had a torrid affair. ‘The attraction was scary,’ Ali reveals in the documentary. They married in 1973 but heaven soon turned to hell: ‘He was tremendously insecure and dangerous.’ McQueen told her she had to give up her career to look after their home — and he expected dinner at 6pm sharp every day. ‘When it was good it was very, very good, but when it was bad it was horrendous,’ she says. +5 Steve McQueen, was diagnosed with cancer and died in November 1980, probably from breathing asbestos She has previously told how once, on location, he went off partying with two local beauties, leaving MacGraw alone, and that night she could hear them all in the next room. In the morning, McQueen asked her to cook him breakfast and said nothing about the night before. It was typical of his attitude — he had already banned MacGraw from wearing heels and having long nails. As he once said: ‘They call me a chauvinist pig. I am and I don’t give a damn.’ ‘After five years Steve sort of checked out of the marriage,’ MacGraw says now. ‘Chad would come downstairs and find plates sailing past his head. It was a rotten family scenario.’ Steve’s stardom was consolidated with films including cult horror hit The Blob, The Magnificent Seven and The Great Escape. Yet even at the height of his fame, his insecurity surfaced. He always demanded bulk consignments of razors and jeans when he started on a movie — it was later discovered that he donated them to Boys Republic. Original trailer for Steve McQueen classic Bullitt He loved fast cars but was happiest on his motorbike and when there was a full moon — even in the middle of filming — he would vanish on it for a day or two. ‘It’s not like he was a werewolf, but it did make him go strange. Sometimes he would even bark and growl,’ laughs Chad. ‘He never explained where he went and we didn’t ask.’ After splitting with Ali, Steve grew a beard and travelled the country in a motorhome with his young model girlfriend, Barbara Minty, whom he later married, and Chad. ‘He’d had enough of fame,’ says Chad. ‘He wanted to stay at the beach; he wouldn’t let scripts be delivered to the house, so I’d have to pick them up at a gas station.’ He made only two movies in that period, and it was while filming The Hunter that he started to complain of chest pains. Doctors diagnosed cancer, probably caused by working with asbestos when he was in the Marines. He fought to the end but died on November 7, 1980. The McQueen name has lived on. Chad is an actor and also raced cars; his own son Steven is an actor in The Vampire Diaries. The legend, too, remains. ‘Thirty-four years after he died he is still well loved and respected for his work,’ says Chad. ‘My dad was proof that whatever doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger.’     Bessie Smith, left, was an American blues singer. Nicknamed The Empress of the Blues, Smith was the most popular female blues singer of the 1920s and 1930s. Right, Walt Whitman was an American poet whose work was considered controversial in the 20th century +18 Scottish-born musician permanently residing in the United States, David Byrne is a founding member of the American new wave band Talking Heads   Gentlemen prefer body-builders! Pictures reveal how Marilyn Monroe kept her iconic figure in shape with weights and a bizarre diet Photos of the starlet working out were left on the cutting-room floor after a 1952 shoot for LIFE magazine Marilyn Monroe became world-famous for her curvy figure, but it may be surprising to know that keeping that alluring hourglass involved a lot of work. Just before she hit it big in 'Gentlemen Prefer Blondes', Philippe Halsman photographed her for LIFE magazine, taking a few candid shots of her daily workout routine. One picture of Monroe in a hugging white dress made it onto the cover of the April 7, 1952 issue, while the shots of her lifting weights in a terry-cloth bikini were left on the cutting room floor - rarely seen. +11 Health conscious: In an early photoshoot, Marilyn Monroe is pictured working out with weights at home +11 Cover girl: The pictures were taken by photographer Philippe Halsman for LIFE magazine. She made the April 7, 1952 cover +11 Glimpse: The candid shots of Marilyn working out didn't make it to the magazine, and have rarely been seen The black-and-white photographs show a very-serious Marilyn performing squats and military presses with a bar, and bench-pressing small weights. She then cracks a smile mid-handstand and gives a come-hither look while relaxing on the floor. At the time of the photoshoot, Marilyn was not yet a household name but even then she was beginning to use her wiles on men. Halsman later wrote about the shoot and talked about being quite enamored with his subject. 'She flirted with all three of us,' Halsman said. 'And such was her talent that each of us felt that if only the other two would leave, something incredible would happen. Her sex-appeal was not a put-on - it was her weapon and her defense.' +11 Come hither: Halsman later wrote about the shoot, saying Marilyn was extremely flirtatious with him and the other men in the room +11 Gymnast: Marilyn giggles as she tries out a handstand     re than just a sex symbol: Halsman noted seeing several intellectual books scattered across Marilyn's cheap apartment on the outskirts of LA. But her cheap apartment on the outskirts of LA also held clues that she was more than just sex appeal. 'The Talk of Hollywood': The pictures were taken for the April 7, 1952 cover story of LIFE magazine 'What impressed me in its shabby living room was the obvious striving for self-improvement,' Halsman wrote. 'I saw a photograph of Eleanora Duse and a multitude of books that I did not expect to find there, like the works of Dostoyevsky, of Freud, the History of Fabian Socialism, etc. On the floor were two dumbbells.' Marilyn detailed her health regimen later that year in a September 1952 interview with now-defunct Pageant Magazine. 'Frankly, I’ve never considered my own figure so exceptional. Until quite recently, I seldom gave it any thought at all,' a humble Marilyn said. 'My biggest single concern used to be getting enough to eat. Now I have to worry about eating too much. I never used to bother with exercises.' She went on to explain that she spent about 10 minutes every morning practicing 'bust-firming' exercises with small weights - but she maintains she's not a fitness-freak. 'I don’t count rhythmically like the exercise people on the radio; I couldn’t stand exercise if I had to feel regimented about it,' she said. Monroe also talks about her diet, which others told her were 'absolutely bizarre'. For breakfast, Monroe drank a glass of warm milk with an egg whipped as well as a multivitamin. 'I doubt if any doctor could recommend a more nourishing breakfast for a working girl in a hurry,' she said. +11 Bizarre breakfast: In an interview with Pageant Magazine in September 1952, Marilyn said she drank milk with an egg whipped in for breakfast each morning +11 Routine: Marilyn also revealed that she did 10 minutes of a bust-firming exercise each morning +11 Relaxed: But Marilyn also said she didn't like to make her exercises seem to regimented +11 Balanced: Marilyn often treated herself to a hot fudge Sunday after a long day of work The actress completely skips talking about lunch, but says her dinner is almost always the same - some sort of protein with raw baby carrots. 'I must be part rabbit, I never get bored with raw carrots,' she wrote. But she made sure to save room for dessert. 'In recent months I have developed the habit of stopping off at Wil Wright’s ice cream parlor for a hot fudge sundae on my way home from my evening drama classes. I’m sure that I couldn’t allow myself this indulgence were it not that my normal diet is composed almost totally of protein foods.'   +18 Jean-Michel Basquiat was an American artist. By the time he died in 1988 he had risen from a graffiti artist in his hometown of New York to an international star   One of the most prominent cultural icons for over three decades, Madonna has achieved an unprecedented level of power and control for a woman in the entertainment world. Actor and film producer Benicio del Toro, right ,who won an Academy Award, a Golden Globe Award, a Screen Actors Guild Award, and a BAFTA Award for his role as Javier Rodríguez in Traffic (2000) TOP FIFTY KINGS AND QUEENS OF COOL The Roots of Cool Fred Astaire Bix Beiderbecke Louise Brooks James Cagney Frederick Douglass Greta Garbo Ernest Hemingway Zora Neale Hurston Jack Johnson Duke Kahanamoku Buster Keaton HL Mencken Georgia O’Keeffe Dorothy Parker Bessie Smith Willie “The Lion” Smith Mae West Walt Whitman Bert Williams The Birth of Cool Lauren Bacall James Baldwin Humphrey Bogart Marlon Brando Lenny Bruce William S Burroughs Raymond Chandler Gary Cooper Miles Davis James Dean Duke Ellington Dizzy Gillespie Woody Guthrie Audrey Hepburn Billie Holiday Jack Kerouac Gene Krupa Robert Mitchum Thelonius Monk Anita O’Day Charlie Parker Jackson Pollock Elvis Presley Frank Sinatra Barbara Stanwyck Muddy Waters John Wayne Hank Williams Lester Young Cool and the Counterculture Muhammad Ali ...THE NEXT FIFTY James Brown Jim Brown Johnny Cash Angela Davis Joan Didion Faye Dunaway Bob Dylan Clint Eastwood Walt Frazier Marvin Gaye Deborah Harry Jimi Hendrix Bruce Lee Steve McQueen Bill Murray Paul Newman Jack Nicholson Bonnie Raitt Lou Reed Carlos Santana Patti Smith Susan Sontag Hunter S Thompson John Travolta Andy Warhol Malcolm X Frank Zappa The Legacy of Cool Afrika Bambaataa Jean-Michel Basquiat David Byrne Kurt Cobain Johnny Depp Missy Elliott Tony Hawk Chrissie Hynde Jay-Z Steve Jobs Michael Jordan Madonna Willie Nelson Prince Susan Sarandon Selena Tupac Shakur Sam Shepard Bruce Springsteen Jon Stewart Quentin Tarantino Benicio del Toro Tom Waits Neil Young

My fears for my darling Doris Day: Confidante who spent 40 years with the reclusive Hollywood star, now 91, worries about the hangers-on who now share her home - as he reveals unseen photos of their time together Sydney Wood tells all about life with the Pillow Talk star - and his worries for her now The British caretaker admits: 'Doris isn't what she used to be and she's now confined to her house for much of her days'- He reveals secret visits by Sir Paul McCartney - and phone calls from her ex-love, President Ronald Reagan, from the White House Doris Day has not been pictured in public since 2008 The wide grin is the same, as are the big blue eyes that once captivated America. These intimate pictures give a fascinating glimpse of reclusive film star Doris Day, now 91, and her life after Hollywood, as unveiled by the man who cared for her for nearly 40 years. For the first time, Sydney Wood has opened up his treasured album of photographs from his time working for Doris – and revealed his fears for the woman once known as America’s Sweetheart. Sydney, 71, was the star’s personal assistant, bodyguard and closest confidante, and breaking his silence, he told MailOnline: ‘Doris isn’t what she used to be and she’s now confined to her house for much of her days. ‘She used to have the right people taking care of her. But her house is full of different people now. They’re with her because she’s Doris Day. I worry they are not looking after her well enough.' Scroll down for video Unseen: Doris Day is now 91 and a recluse at her home in Carmel in California. Her former caretaker Sydney Wood has opened up his photo album that includes never-before seen pictures of America's Sweetheart, seen here with one of her pet dogs Confidantes: Doris Day and her former assistant Sydney Wood, who spent almost 40 years working for the star. Brit Sydney, now 71, left Doris's home in 2000 and said the pair were getting on each other's nerves Fears: Sydney Wood, originally from Suffolk in the UK, said he worries that Doris Day, now 91, is not being looked after properly, adding: 'She used to have the right people taking care of her. But her house is full of different people now'   Born and raised in Suffolk, Sydney ran the Doris Day fan club in Britain and exchanged letters and phone calls with the actress and singer before she asked him to work for her in 1979. Despite eschewing her fame and hiding herself away, the star’s life has still included surprise visits from Sir Paul McCartney and calls from her old flame President Ronald Reagan – alongside ham sandwiches for breakfast. Making the decision to retire from movies in 1968, Doris moved to an 11-acre estate in Carmel, California - successfully steering clear of the spotlight with the help of a loyal inner circle. She even changed her name to Clara Kappelhoff - she was born Doris Mary Ann Kappelhoff - and on the rare occasions she ventured out she was seen strolling around the picturesque community with no make-up, a wide-brimmed hat, jogging pants and sneakers. ‘Doris used to have the right people taking care of her. But her house is full of different people now. They’re with her because she’s Doris Day. They’re not looking after her' Indeed, Sydney said that Doris, whose greatest movie hits include Calamity Jane and Pillow Talk, had kept the same household staff with her for decades and treated them as close friends, up until recently. He revealed: ‘A friend of mine went round for dinner recently and Doris served it on paper plates. That would never have happened in my day. She took great pride in running the house well. She’d always be making calls, receiving calls, going out to breakfast, going out to lunch, taking the dogs for walks. ‘I love Doris and she had such an active life. But now she has a nurse on the property and living there because she’s in her nineties now her health isn’t what it used to be.’ The biggest female box office star in Hollywood history, Doris managed to remove herself from public life apart from the odd fleeting sighting at the grocery store or village fete. After she retired, she devoted herself to her beloved dogs and animal charities – and was last pictured in public in 2008. EXCLUSIVE: Inside the private world of Doris Day Memories: Doris Day looks pensive in a photo taken by her former assistant Sydney Wood. He recalled his time with the star - and how despite being a recluse, she still had visits from Sir Paul McCartney and phone calls from President Ronald Reagan At her happiest: After leaving Hollywood in 1968 for an 11-acre estate in Carmel, Doris Day devoted herself to her beloved pets and became an ardent animal campaigner Blue eyes: Despite being far from her Hollywood heyday, Doris Day still maintained the sparkle in her eyes, in pictures taken by former assistant Sydney Wood Loved: Doris Day and her beloved son Terry Melcher, who died from cancer in 2004 aged 62. The pair are pictured in an old Ford on Doris's driveway But far from the pampered lifestyle that four-times married Doris could have afforded – or expected – Sydney said on a typical day: ‘She’d come down in her dressing gown and go into the kitchen. She’d make a ham sandwich or cereal, coffee or hot chocolate, depending on her mood, then she’d feed the animals little biscuits and prepare their main breakfast meal. He even revealed she has a washing machine in her bedroom, adding: ‘She always said she was best ironer of clothes. If you gave her a broom, you couldn’t take it from her, she loved sweeping; she’d take it off me if I was outside with it.’ And when discussing her hit movies, Doris – ever a perfectionist - would always have the same refrain ‘I could have done it better.’ 'A friend of mine went round for dinner recently and Doris served it on paper plates. That would never have happened in my day. She took great pride in running the house well' Sydney had two stints in Carmel - from 1979 to 1992 then a further six years in 2000. ‘It wasn’t about the money when working with Doris,’ he said: ‘I was earning about seven dollars an hour when I first started, which wasn’t much but I never had any keep, everything was paid for. I never knew what a bill was like until I quit working for her. We were best of friends.’ Doris made 39 films and recorded 29 albums and throughout her career, she worked alongside stars from Bing Crosby and Frank Sinatra to Carey Grant and Clark Gable. However, Sydney, who now lives in Maine, New England, said that she’s hidden away most of the mementos of her previous life, saying: ‘‘There was literally hundreds of memorabilia wrapped in tissue—gold discs, billboard chart awards, magazine covers, and they were all kept in boxes in the spare room. She’s not the type of person that has to show what she’s done in life.’ As she aged, Doris was still determined to maintain her independence, Sydney added: ‘She’d do the cooking, fetching and carrying.’ Last picture: Doris Day was last pictured out in public in July 2008, while shopping with a friend near her estate in Carmel, California Animal lover: Doris Day is happiest when she's with her beloved pets, according to her former caretaker Sydney Wood Aged: Doris Day devoted herself to her animals, but Sydney Wood says: 'I love Doris and she had such an active life. But now she has a nurse on the property and living there because she's in her nineties now her health isn't what it used to be' A smile: Doris Day beams as she takes her dogs for a walk along a California beach With the exception of the occasional day trip to San Francisco or Monterey, Doris would spend most of her time ‘pottering around her house and Carmel’. Sydney added: ‘She’d feed the dogs at 4.30, then go over to her bedroom and eat a snack and watch TV. She watched a lot of British TV on CBS and absolutely loved Judi Dench. She loved the comedy As Time Goes By, she always thought it was very well written.’ Bedtime was then 9pm. But Doris thought Sydney was joking when former Beatle Sir Paul McCartney rang out of the blue, as he recalled: ‘She said: “The Beatles? Go away, it’s someone pulling my leg’. ‘She then spoke to him for 90 minutes and got off the phone and said ‘he wants to come to the house. He wants to see the dogs and liked one of my films and wanted to talk about my career’. Sir Paul and his ex-wife Heather Mills came to Carmel and brought Doris a pot plant and Girl Scout Cookies and stayed for five hours as Sydney said: ‘Paul asked me to take a picture of the three of them. They hugged and said goodbye, what they talked about I have no idea, but I’m sure it would be about her career. He loved the property and what she’d done there. He still calls her now.’ Although she had a love of food – Doris maintained a Hollywood diet, as Sydney said: ‘She never really ate that much, but she’d always work off what she ate. She never put on weight; she was the same as she was when she was in her heyday. America's Sweetheart: Doris Day in the film Love Me or Leave Me, in which she starred alongside James Cagney in 1955 (left) and in 1948 on the right after being named 'Sweet Note of Music' by the National Music Trades Association Box office hit: Doris Day starred alongside long-time friend Rock Hudson in the 1959 movie Pillow Talk Famous: Doris Day starred in a number of iconic movies, including the 1953 musical Calamity Jane, with co-star Howard Keel Doting: Doris Day in an unseen picture with her grandson Ryan Melcher, the son of her only child Terry and his wife Terese. Ryan is now a realtor in Carmel ‘She never stopped keeping busy, even when she was retired, she just kept on the move all the time.’ And while Doris was blessed with the luxuries of her successful career, her love and family life has been blighted with tragedy. She was left heartbroken when her only son, producer and songwriter Terry Melcher, known for his work with the Beach Boys and the Byrds, died in 2004 at the age of 62 after a long battle with cancer. Her grandson Ryan, Terry's only child, now works as a realtor in Carmel - but refuses to discuss his famous grandmother. Terry had re-married by the time Sydney returned to work for Doris in 2000 and even though he had moved to Santa Monica he called his mother every day. Photos of Terry are seen around the house – and in a glass cabinet and Sydney said: ‘I’m sure in private moments when he passed away, Doris would have looked at those photos a lot. Terry was all she had. They were more than mother and son. They would walk all around the estate, walking and talking. ‘He would take her everywhere if she had appointments, dinners or functions, he would always escort her, keep his eye on her, as Doris didn’t have a partner. They were more like brother and sister. Heartbroken: Doris Day was left devastated by the death of her only son Terry Melcher from cancer in 2004 aged 62. Terry is seen here in December 1969 at the Los Angeles County grand jury probe into the Sharon Tate murder case Out of the spotlight: Doris Day with her pets. Her former caretaker Sydney Wood revealed all her mementos of her Hollywood career were hidden away ‘But Doris was never lonely, she always had lots of people to call upon, and I think that’s why she also liked her own company. She never had a problem being on her own.' Despite her low-key existence, Doris still had her fair share of famous friends and had calls from Ronald Reagan, co-star Rock Hudson and Ginger Rogers. Sydney said :’Ronald Reagan called when he was president. He’d said in the press that he’d taken one of his dogs to his ranch in Santa Barbara, as it was too troublesome to stay at the White House.  Doris responded in an article in Parade magazine and said that she hoped the dog was now being taken care of. So Ronald called her and said the dog was fine, she didn’t need to worry. Retired: Doris Day quit Hollywood in 1968 and never made a movie again. She's seen her with a pet Basset Hound during a Kraft Margarine shoot at her home Friends: An unseen photo of Doris Day and actor Cleveland Amory. The pair worked together on setting up animal shelters A star is born: Doris Day on the set of her 1957 movie The Pajama Game (left) and pictured in the movie, Lover Come Back in 1961, on the right ‘She loved Ronald, the pair were dating when they were making movies together in the early 50s. Even then, she said he was always talking politics. If she would have played her cards right, Doris could have become the First Lady. ‘She thought the world of Ronald, she thought he was a great president. She’s a strong Republican.' Sydney left Doris's employ in 1996 and moved to Florida, previously stating they were both getting on each other‘s nerves. But, in 1998, Day’s son, Terry Melcher, invited him back for a visit - and then offered. Sydney returned in 2000 for six years. Doris celebrated her 91st birthday on April 3, and Sydney remembered joking about her ageless vitality. He recalled: ‘I always said to her: “You’re going to live forever, you’ll outlive everyone.” And she’d just laugh and tell me to stop being silly.’   Five time Emmy-winning actress Candice Bergen, now 68, confesses she was the highest paid actor in television for a lot of years after playing the title role in the hit CBS sitcom, Murphy Brown that ran for ten years starting in 1988. ‘The job security was incredible. And I never wanted it to end; doing Murphy Brown was insanely fun’. ‘I have made a lot of money. Most of this is the incomparable TV Money. Nothing like it’. After the first year of the hit TV show, when she won the Golden Globe and Emmy for best actress, her salary headed skyward for over ten years and she kept that fact a secret. Financial secrets prevailed in her upbringing by her model/ actress mother and her famous father, Edgar Bergen, best known for as ventriloquist who's sidekick was dummy Charlie McCarthy. Scroll down for video +8 Puppet envy: In her new memoir, Candice Bergen writes that her father belittled her looks and favored his dummy. She reveals that she would sit on one of her father’s knees at the breakfast table and Charlie McCarthy sat on the other.‘A gentle squeeze on the back of my neck was my cue to open and shut my mouth so he could ventriloquize me. Charlie and I would chatter together silently, while behind us Dad would supply the snappy repartee for both of us' +8 Success: Candice starred in the long-running TV hit Murphy Brown, here with costar Grant Shaud +8 Happy at last: Candice Bergen and husband Marshall Rose t the 2014 Vanity Fair Oscar Party Edgar spent more time with the dummy than his first-born child, Candice. And when he died in 1978, her penurious father left his only daughter out of his will - but not Charlie.. Charlie McCarthy was willed $10,000 with the proviso that the funds be managed, invested and reinvested to fund ventriloquist performances in the future. Edgar wrote ‘I make this provision for sentimental reasons which to me are vital due to the association with Charlie McCarthy who has been my constant companion and who has taken on the character of a real person and from whom I have never been separated even for a day’. ‘I’d chased my father’s approval all my life and here was proof I’d never get it’, the actress candidly reveals in her new memoir, A Fine Romance, published by Simon & Schuster. Charlie McCarthy dominated Candy’s childhood. She sat on one of her father’s knees at the breakfast table and Charlie sat on the other. ‘A gentle squeeze on the back of my neck was my cue to open and shut my mouth so he could ventriloquize me. Charlie and I would chatter together silently, while behind us Dad would supply the snappy repartee for both of us. Charlie had his own bedroom next to mine – and his was bigger. +8 Candy's competition for her dad's affections was not with a sibling - it was with her ventriloquist EdBound to give Charlie McCarthy +8 ‘Those were unique circumstances to grow up in. Sometimes I have to give myself credit for being a functional human being,' she writes ‘Those were unique circumstances to grow up in. Sometimes I have to give myself credit for being a functional human being’. ‘I knew my father loved me, but with his Swedish reserve, it wasn’t his nature to tell me’, Bergen writes. He was not physically affectionate and when the young girl decided to get over her own terror of trying to say she loved him, his response to her declaration was a pat on the hand. But the two would go up in his plane together and he’d prop the young girl up on phonebooks and let her fly the plane. They also went on fishing outings together and took long breakfast rides on horseback when visiting Palm Springs. ‘Still I was hurt, shocked when I discovered he had left me out of his will’. She didn’t need the money but it was an emotional slight. Edgar also kept secrets from his wife – the contents of a safe in his study. When Candice and her mother finally figured out the combination after his death, the name ‘Charlie’ transposed into numbers, the door opened to reveal fabulous pieces of jewelry that Edgar had purchased and stowed away as investments and also to avoid paying taxes on them. Mrs. Frances Bergen, known professionally as Frances Westcott after becoming ‘the Chesterfield Girl’ and the ‘Ipana (toothpaste) Girl’ in newspaper ads and on billboards, had no clue as to the existence of the large marquis diamond ring or the beautiful diamond necklace with an aquamarine the size of an egg. Edgar never included her in any financial discussion but after his death, she became the ‘stock witch’, cleverly quadrupling the value of the estate over twenty years. Charlie McCarthy always dominated Candice’s life. She compared playing her award-winning title role on Murphy Brown to channeling her inner Charlie. The Murphy Brown character fit her like a glove and ‘gave me permission to be my brattiest, bawdiest self’. Her father was schizophrenic in the same way -- buttoned-down, quiet, and introverted– unless he was with friends or had Charlie with him, an invitation to be risqué and tell dirty jokes. +8 Director Louis Malle and actress Candice Bergen attend the 'Dangerous Liaisons'  premier in 1988 Candice Bergen attends the 1989 Emmy Awards ‘He belonged to a men’s group called the Rancheros Visitadores. They would go on weekend horseback rides and camp out and tell stories and fart around a campfire’. Then he would revert to his introverted self when back at home. Candice married the brilliant French film director, screenwriter and producer Louis Malle in 1980. When she became pregnant with their first and only child, Chloe Malle, Candice agonized over whether or not she would be able to tell the baby still in her womb that she loved her. She had never heard those words growing up and had never been able to tell her parents she loved them until late in their lives and well into her thirties. For thirty-nine years, those feelings were suppressed until Chloe was born in 1985 and then the infant hijacked Candice’s feelings and turned her into a lunatic if she was separated from the child. The little girl became the love of her life distancing her from Malle. He escaped Los Angeles to work in France and New York. But the couple remained devoted and thought about having a second child until Louis was diagnosed with myelofibrosis that morphed into lymphoma and inflammation of the brain. The illness was fatal.' ‘I was in a black anger. I felt that my life, which had always been blessed, had suddenly been hijacked by this completely other force.’ +8 Candice's daughter Chloe is engaged and will marry in France, as her mother did Chloe's father, this summer ‘I felt like my heart was breaking’. She hid in the housekeeper’s room and cried at night. She sought out primal scream therapy and was angry that that her life was being taken away from her and that she had become caretaker. Louis died in November 1995 at age sixty-three and Bergen confesses she still thinks about him all the time. ‘We loved each other completely, then were pulled apart by distance’. Three years later in 1998, she met Marshall Rose, who had been chairman of the New York Public Library, a real estate developer, philanthropist and a billionaire. They married in June 2000 and writes that she found this new married life claustrophobic. She and Louis had lived together and apart with his work in Europe. Now ‘Marsh’ was reaching out for a closeness she found excessive and suffocating and reacted to with tiny tantrums. Back to analysis that helped her open up to the continued tenderness of her second husband. Feeling too old for movies, feeling like a cliché, a middle-aged actress with no job offers, she was suffering from empty nest syndrome until the offer to act in Boston Legal in 2005 came along and rescued her from her anxieties. These days Bergen accepts the thirty pounds she’s packed on since her marriage to Marsh. She accepts that she is ‘a champion eater. ‘No carb is safe – no fat either’. +8 Always a compulsive eater, when she was a young girl, she consumed twelve peanut butter and jelly sandwich halves in less than ten minutes. She no longer overeats past gratification but still indulges in cookies and ice cream if she can find where the housekeeper has hidden them and Parmesan cheese. She writes there is so much fat in her face that the skin is stretched to the max while hanging in folds under her chin. She’s on meds for mini-strokes she first suffered while taping Boston Legal, but she’s off the Prozac that had been prescribed. She’s given up chasing plastic surgery or fills to look younger and has settled in a loving and devoted relationship with Marsh.